In an effort to answer the question of what we mean when we say we’re “in” at Evergreen, we came up with 6 “core commitments.” These are what we ask people to look at, be aware of and commit to when deciding to become a part of our church community.
The fifth one is: on Leaving Community
When, for some reason, someone decides that he or she no longer wishes to participate in the evergreen community, it is important to let the community know, and to let them know why. Rather than simply disappearing or jumping to another church community, commitment to community means informing someone (whether that be an elder, or someone else with whom you have a relationship at Evergreen) of a decision to withdraw. Part of community life is being open with one another, and the future absence of someone will affect the entire community. The reason we ask you to tell someone is that 1. We value your presence and want to know if you choose to be part of another community. 2. You probably have something to tell us, something that we need to hear.
Our hope is that everyone who takes part in Evergreen does so in a joyous way, but with a lot of intentionality- including when they decide it’s time to leave. Too often, people make choices about communities from a consumer mindset. As long as everything is interesting, I agree with it all, it feels easy to be a part of… I’m in. But what about when things get tough? When there are disagreements? We want people to stick through the tough times in community, because that’s where God forms us.
However, there may a time you need to move on, for whatever reason. The goal is to do so thoughtfully, for the right reasons, with a lot of communication with those who have been caring for you in community. If you feel like you need to move on, talk to someone. Even if you are contemplating moving away, out of state, for whatever reason, let us pray with you, discern with you. This is the role of community- take advantage of it!